| Divorce stinks! It hurts a lot of people. Your children | | | | The old band-aid just isn't enough. Instead, |
| are hurt because the family they were a part of is | | | | inflammation, and eventually infection tend to set in if |
| over. Both you and your ex-spouse are hurt too. It | | | | ignored. It may not seem real obvious at first, but |
| doesn't matter if you initiated the divorce or not, | | | | give it time. The real problem for most people is |
| some hurt remains. There were hurtful things that | | | | when they "move on" and carry that infection into a |
| happened in the marriage that lead to the divorce | | | | new marriage and the creation of a step family. |
| weren't there? Withdrawal, attack, insults, infidelity, | | | | This is the first in a series of articles in which we will |
| and outright anger are all typical steps that lead | | | | evaluate some of these infections and you will learn |
| people down the road toward a divorce decision. | | | | how to go about cleansing them, repairing them, and |
| If that hurt isn't dealt with it becomes an extra | | | | watching them heal. Most of the infections have to |
| appendage that you carry with you wherever you | | | | do with anger. This is the most common emotion felt |
| go. Most people like to ignore that hurt and "move | | | | during and right after a divorce. Yes, for some of |
| on" just as fast as possible. It's understandable. I | | | | you, maybe even a lot of you, there was an initial |
| don't think anyone's first choice would be to choose | | | | sense of relief once the decision to divorce was |
| pain. Instead, we like to slap a band-aid on our | | | | made. However, anger usually begins to creep in soon |
| wounds and go, don't we? | | | | than later. |
| Well, that doesn't work so well with divorce hurts. | | | | |