Fascinate Him With Four Little Words

I recently read an article by a female writer whoThe best assumption you can make early in a
claims that it doesn't matter who a single woman isrelationship is that a guy is not the one for you. Act
or what she does for a living. Once she dates a guy,accordingly. This doesn't mean you're rude to him,
she could be performing brain surgery, and she'll beplay games, or deliberately not return his calls.
preoccupied about when he's going to call.It does mean that you treat him as a potential friend.
Not surprisingly, this woman has not been able toYou treat him as you would have him treat you, but
sustain a love relationship. She recently published ayou don't rearrange your life to hang out with him.
book about how she's given up on men and willYou certainly don't break plans with your friends. If
devote herself exclusively to her cats.you find yourself wondering if or when he's going to
I suspect her lack of success with men is due to hercall, take yourself to a movie. Go the the bookstore.
belief that women are programmed to put their livesPut the guy out of your mind until he's done
on hold until a man calls. But women who are lucky insomething to deserve being in it.
love absolutely do not do this. They do not assumeThe bonus? If you treat him as if he's not the one
that a guy might be "the one" for them based on auntil he proves otherwise, you'll fascinate him. Men
single date-- or even on a series of dates.can smell desperation (the same way you can smell
Instead, they say four magic words to themselves:desperation), and it's a turn-off. A happy woman with
"We'll see what happens." They go about their livesa full life is devastatingly attractive.
as usual. If the guy calls, great. If he doesn't, well,Be that woman. Hold out for the wonderful man you
obviously he wasn't "the one."deserve.