| Earlier this year I became aware I was simply not | | | | could be tracked to a single event - my losing my |
| happy with the direction my life was taking. This | | | | post as Head of Support Services with Manchester |
| article is based on my personal experience of going | | | | City Galleries. To be clear, I still had a job, was being |
| through a coaching program focusing on changing | | | | paid the same money but my emotions about how |
| beliefs that may be limiting your personal | | | | that event happened had taken over my life. |
| development. After I started to apply the principles | | | | I bad mouthed certain people to anyone who would |
| they literally changed my view of the Universe. | | | | listen, I attracted other dis-affected people who had |
| I am a 51 year old spina bifida disabled person. I was | | | | lost their posts and we all fed of each others |
| one of the first patients to have the life saving | | | | negativity. I then decided to channel that negative |
| operation that allowed me to be alive today. When I | | | | energy into my work as an advocate for disabled |
| was born my doctors said I would not walk, talk, | | | | employees in the council. So I actively sought out |
| think coherently - in effect I would be a 'vegetable'. | | | | battles I knew I could win and belittle my opponent. I |
| Well my parents ignored this and treated me like an | | | | had become a negative energy attractor with the |
| able bodied child. I was potty trained, just took | | | | articulation to lob some real missiles accurately. |
| longer, my mother walked four miles a day to get | | | | My coach challenged my core belief at the time which |
| me physiotherapy and eventually my right leg did | | | | was that 'all disabled people are discriminated against'. |
| bend. My left leg never did and at the age of 37 I | | | | I was operating on the principle if something went |
| decided to have it amputated below the knee. This | | | | bad in my life it was because I was disabled. My |
| was a positive move on my part and with my | | | | conscious mind was providing me with a nice safe |
| artificial limb my mobility improved tremendously. | | | | get out. |
| I went to College, got drunk, and got yelled at and | | | | She asked me to do the following whenever |
| rebelled like any other teenager. I took my Mother's | | | | somebody made a statement where I could feel |
| advice and got a safe job with the local council and | | | | anger rising - stop and say to myself 'isn't that |
| eventually moved up the ranks to become the Head | | | | interesting?'. In other words stop myself making an |
| of Support Services for Manchester City Galleries. By | | | | instant judgments based on my negative energy. |
| this time I had met my wife Nancy via CompUserve, | | | | Simply observe the statement and then respond |
| proposed to her online after 2 months and I flew to | | | | based on observation rather than anger. |
| Los Angeles to meet her 4 months later and we got | | | | Well the first time I did this I was amazed, my anger |
| married 4 May 1996 in Las Vegas. So here's a picture | | | | subsided and I responded by taking a stand with |
| of a guy who when he decides he wants something | | | | passion instead of anger. I still had the energy but |
| he goes and gets it, and usually succeeds. | | | | was channeling it into the positives for the other |
| So why this feeling earlier this year I was a failure? I | | | | person as opposed to what they were doing wrong. |
| should also point out in the past 5 year my health | | | | To my amazement people who had previously 'sided' |
| was becoming inexplicably worse. So much so I was | | | | against me immediately said 'excellent ideas' and |
| misdiagnosed with a rare form of epilepsy, had | | | | requested they be seriously investigated as soon as |
| shingles and neurological pain and was under the care | | | | possible. |
| of one of the top Neurologists in the country - who | | | | In conclusion, I have worked with colleagues and |
| described my case as bizarre. | | | | achieved more real change in four months of taking a |
| Then came the turning point I watched two films, | | | | stand than four years of fighting. Taking a stand is |
| The Secret and What The Bleep Do We Know and | | | | not passive and is actually harder than getting angry, |
| read the work of Dr Emoto and also Gary Craig | | | | but harnessing that energy and channelling it into |
| developer of a self healing technique called EFT | | | | creating a situation I want to occur does work. Since |
| (Emotional Freedom Technique). I rapidly realized I | | | | then my health has improved, I have had 1 tenth the |
| needed some coaching to get me to put into effect | | | | days off work sick, I have dropped from 10 drugs a |
| what I was reading. Reading is one thing but action | | | | day to 3 and will be drug free in 5 months and I am |
| was what all the sources said was needed. | | | | in a daytime job - Project Management that I am |
| Now we come to the pivotal point of my life to date | | | | passionate about, well received and making a real |
| and the reason for the title of this article. My coach | | | | difference to the work. So Passion trumps Anger |
| immediately helped me realize my worsening health | | | | every time. |