In Seach Of Heroes - Matrimonial Heroes (Part One)

Just as our arrival at destination is tied to the supplysuspicion by the parents, that their teenager has
of fuel, even if we are travelling by a perfectlysold-out to a completely strange doctrine and a tragic
functioning vehicle, so are our destinies tied to thefigure as his hero?Yesterday's careless symptom of
Heroes in our midst, even though we seem to be'matrimonial-hero-failure' has become a pandemic
doing well on the average.Their absence from ourexplosion today, threatening civility with
midst is the reason for the reign of 'lack-lustre'babarism.Take a careful and studious note of this;
mediocres on the throne of our private lives.Heroesevery nation that failed by every ramification and
are the ones who stir up the innate virtues in us fordefinition of that word, is a nation without a
success. They serve, not really as role models ashero-model that can inspire to aspire. It is therefore
many think, but as a beacon of greatness that rallylogical for such a nation to begin to expire. In fact, a
us to aspire for self-fulfilment and actualisation.wise man once said that our success as a nation is
(Afterall, many of us don't really want to be thelargely dependent on our personal or individual
exact copy of our heroes, we are rather content tosuccesses.That is why the untimely death or
know and always see someone bearing the burdenassasination of national heroes always inflict a mortal
and lofty standard of societal aspirations).Thewound on the body of such nations for a long time
successes and triumphs of our Heroes are the loudbefore healing, if at all, it heals.Do you know that our
voice that shut up the quiet wishpers of mockery,heroes are also a product of other heroes? Hear out
defeat and failures in our own lives.The making ofJ. K. Rowling talking about Harry Potter: "...I didn't
heroes begins, first, from the home: 'Matrimonialhave to stop and think very hard about my
Heroes'. As a father or parent, have you ever felthero."This article is dedicated to her, who, though
the tremors of what possible future backlash it wouldbeing a literary heroine of our time, refuse to be
be if you fail to provide or meet basic parentaldistracted by fame and fortune from being a
obligation to your innocent young ones? For how longmatrimonial heroine to her three children and family.
do you think you can manipulate their innocence withHappy birthday to J.K.R. who marks 40 today -31st
fragile excuses for passing the buck?The first, andJuly.Aderemi Ojikutu (Aderaskeey) is a Motivational
not the least, hero of every child is the parent, butAuthor and Youth Mentor. He is a minister of the
when a parent fails in the heroic responsibilitiesWord of God. A political economist and political leader.
toward the child, it is only a matter of time beforeHe is President of the TREASURE WRITERS CLUB in
the growing child 'switch' loyalty and consequentlyNigeria ( He is also the current President of the
reshuffle his or her hero list. May we not be victimsNational Democratic Forum (N.D.F). He was National
of such revolutionary change of a teenager's moralMobilisation Officer of the National Association of
constitution.How do you explain why a teenagerNigerian Students (N.A.N.S) for several years. A
would strap himself with a bomb to blow to deathrevolutionary of over two decades, he was also the
and drag other innocent people with him to thepolitical secretary of the defunct Nigerian Labour
grave, without the slightest iota of foreknowledge orParty in 1989-1991.